well, i have this article from my Friendster’s bulletin, and i think it is so damn right and it suits me well, i wanna share this! it reflects my life… so how about you?
They call it the “Quarter-life Crisis.” It is
when you stop going along with the crowd and
start realising that there are many things about
yourself that you didn’t know and may not like.
You start feeling insecure and wonder where you
will be in a year or two, but then get scared
because you barely know where you are now.
You start realising that people are selfish and
that, maybe, those friends that you thought you
were so close to aren’t exactly the greatest
people you have evermet, and the people you have
lost touch with are some of the most important
ones.
What you don’t recognise is that they are
realising that too, and aren’t really cold,
catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as
confused as you.
You look at your job…and it is not even close
to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe
you are looking for a job and realising that you
are going to have to start at the bottom and
that scares you.
Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what
others are doing and find yourself judging more
than usual because suddenly you realise that you
have certain boundaries in your life and are
constantly adding things to your list of what is
acceptable and what isn’t.
One minute, you are insecure and then the next,
secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest
force of your life. You feel alone and scared
and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and
you try and cling on to the past with dear life,
but soon realise that the past is drifting
further and further away, and there is nothing
to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone
you loved could do such damage to you. Or you
lay in bed and wonder why you can’t meet anyone
decent enough that you want to get to know
better. Or maybe you love someone but love
someone else too and cannot figure out why you
are doing this because you know that you aren’t
a bad person.
One nightstands and random hook ups start to
look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an
idiot starts to look pathetic. You go through
the same emotions and questions over and over,
and talk with your friends about the same topics
because you cannot seem to make a decision.
You worry about loans, money, the future and
making a life for yourself…and while winning
the race would be great, right now you’d just
like to be a contender!
What you may not realise is that everyone
reading this relates to it. We are in our best
of times and our worst of times, trying as hard
as we can to figure this whole thing out.
Send this to your twenty-something friends…
maybe it will help someone feel like they aren’t
alone in their state of confusion!!